Rebecca Pfister. Young Persons’ Counsellor
Young Persons’ Counselling is delivered in Stirling by Rebecca Pfister.
“For in every adult there dwells the child that was, and in every child there lies the adult that will be.” – John Connolly, The Book of Lost Things.
If you have noticed that your child might be unhappy or unable to cope with life, your child might benefit from counselling also known as talking therapy. Counselling allows your child to talk to someone who won’t judge or reprimand them, giving them space and empathy to work through the difficulties in a safe and confidential environment.
There are a range of issues which might affect us throughout life ranging from dealing with family breakdown, bereavement, friendship issues, bullying or general feelings of anxiety and anger. Children are even more vulnerable to these issues and often feel unable to talk about their problems and worries with the people who are closest to them due to shame or fear of judgement. Not being able to express these difficult feelings often lead to decreased confidence, impaired relationships with family and peers and other behavioural difficulties.
The aim of counselling for children is to enable the child to feel safe enough to express difficult feelings and seeks to build their coping abilities and emotional resilience. Some children are more able to express themselves through artwork and play and sessions are tailored to each child’s needs, in an age-appropriate way. Children who come to counselling often experience an increased sense of wellbeing, improved relationships, and an ability to help themselves.
Similarly, counselling provides young people with a safe and confidential space to explore issues that are troubling or confusing them and allows them to express themselves freely. Talking to someone outside of their immediate family or friendship circle can help the young person to feel heard and safe whilst learning to gain coping strategies and making sense of the world they live in.
I believe that deep listening, empathy and a non-judgemental attitude are essential to help children and young person to make sense of their experience. A supportive environment can lead to the child and the young person becoming more aware of their thoughts and actions, which might influence the choices they make and how they face adversity in the future. This can lead to increased confidence and resilience which are paramount to emotional wellbeing.
Counselling is a journey that takes time and consistency to work effectively. Regular, weekly counselling sessions are recommended. Prospective clients are first offered an initial consultation, if we decide to work together, then we can make an agreement – which could be reviewed at any time – for the following; for when we meet, how many sessions, a plan for holidays/cancellations, my policy for confidentiality and information-storing. Depending on the clients age, some of the above might be discussed with a parent or guardian. Children and young people have a right to privacy as much as adults and sessions are confidential unless the child is at risk of harm.
I have worked with children, young people and adults, having experience working with a range of issues such as anxiety, depression, eating disorders, low confidence, and poor self-esteem.
I have previously worked as a counsellor at Wellspring Scotland, a centre for psychotherapy and counselling in Edinburgh. Prior to that I worked at Place 2 Be, providing in-school counselling to improve the emotional wellbeing of primary school pupils. I also work as a youth facilitator for the Wilderness Foundation Scotland, a program which helps improve young people’s social skills and emotional wellbeing.
I have a Postgraduate Diploma in Counselling and Psychotherapy from the University of Edinburgh, validated by COSCA (Scotland’s professional body for counselling and psychotherapy), and I am in the process of becoming BACP (British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy) accredited. I adhere to the BACP’s code of ethics and receive appropriate levels of supervision from an accredited supervisor regularly.